tips to build emotional strength

The sad reality of life is that often it’s not fair. It can be hard to know who and what to trust. We live in an imperfect world.

You don’t need to look far to see all the problems we are facing daily. Turn on the TV and evening news and you will see we live in an imperfect world filled with corrupted politicians, corporate greed, class inequality, and institutional scandals.

According to the University of Chicago National Opinion Research Center, 53 percent of Americans believed most people could be trusted in 1964. Pew Research compiled an index of public trust and found out that trust in government institutions it at the lowest point (Research Link).

Do you believe that most people can be trusted?” If your answer is “no”, does it affect your general attitude about life? The latest research coming out of Positive Psychology indicates pessimism is harmful to your health:

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• Intellectually
• Emotionally and
• Physically.

During times like this, one thing you can do is build your emotional strength. On a daily basis, you make an important choice to be pessimistic or optimistic about the world you live in, who you are, and what you can accomplish.

When you are pessimistic, you are less alert intellectually. It takes longer to come up with answers to problems. When you have a negative view about people, events and yourself, you are more likely to be irritable and to hold on to anger. This negatively affects your relationships. In addition, your immune system is weakened which makes you more vulnerable to illness.

Fortunately, there are things you can do to build your emotional strength and immune system. Even when you cannot control a situation or influence those who do, you can choose to manage yourself.

You have a choice about how to live in an imperfect world.

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To help you better cope with problems of outside world it help to make yourself emotionally stronger? But How can you make yourself emotionally stronger?

Follow these tips if you want to build your emotional strength:

• Identify your top five values that are important to you, i.e. honesty, humor, independence, and creativity. Choose to find ways to include them in your life daily. Live your values.
• Choose to make a plan to achieve something that is important to you each day. Even if you only work on it for 15 minutes, it is valuable in building your self-esteem.
• Accept what cannot be changed in your life.
• Seek out what is good in yourself, in others, in things, and in situations as opposed to what is negative.
• Focus on things you are grateful for and appreciate. By doing this, you can change your thought patterns from hopeless to hopeful.
• Believe you are not a victim if bad things have happened to you. Victims stay stuck.
• See yourself as a problem solver by seeking solutions.
• Be consistent in what you say and do. This is critical in building trust with others.
• Seek out positive alternatives to reduce stress in your life. Having fun is recharging even if it is for a short time.
• Surround yourself with positive people who can be role models

Life is rarely the way it’s supposed to be. Instead, life is the way it is. The way you choose to cope with what cannot be changed makes the difference. It is possible to build your emotional strength and live an engaging and meaningful life. Look for ways to start your day well, and choose to be optimistic about its outcome.

Maurine Patten, Ed.D, CMC, Maximize Your Possibilities More free information, assessment, and ezine subscription at

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